Do you Have a Problem with Self Confidence?
Self esteem affects your
confidence, how important is that? If you want to rise to any challenge
you must believe in yourself. Without confidence in what you can do and
in who you are what chance do you have of happiness or success?
So what is Self Esteem ?
Self
esteem is your opinion of yourself. High self esteem is a good opinion
of yourself, and low self esteem is a bad opinion of yourself.
The Importance of Self Esteem
Self
esteem is essential and is a cornerstone of a positive attitude towards
living. It is very important because it affects how you think, act and
even how you relate to other people. It allows you to live life to your
potential. Low self esteem means poor confidence and that also causes
negative thoughts, which in turn means that you are likely to give up
more easily rather than face challenges. In addition, it has a direct
bearing on your happiness and wellbeing.
You may well be asking. Why should self esteem matter to me?
I
believe self esteem is central to everything we do. It affects your
behaviour and thoughts. It changes how you feel about and value
yourself, can you imagine anything else so important?
These are
some of the reasons I believe why your self esteem needs to be high.
High self esteem can be the difference between success and failure, it
can affect your thinking causing your outlook to be positive or
negative. It affects your confidence, your self image and if you don’t
value yourself how will you be able to value others?
Self esteem enables you to have the right attitude to succeed at work.
It also affects your happiness, now what do I mean by that?
Your
capability to achieve what you most desire is directly related to your
self esteem. Whilst on the other hand, failure is much more likely when
you suffer from low self esteem because you will believe others when
they tell you why you cannot succeed.
At some time in our
life’s most of us have carried around self doubts that have limited our
potential. We have doubts on how capable we will be at performing a new
job. We are uncertain as to whether we can keep our lover interested, or
we have reservation whether we're smart enough to finish that
university program. Whatever the case may be, this is where you have to
look at your options, a choice needs to be made. You can either let your
self doubts control your actions, or you can work through them by
improving the things you can change and by accepting those you can't.
We
are all capable of removing the negative layers and replacing them with
positive ones. Only then can we start working on the most important
relationship we'll ever have, the relationship with yourself, it’s
important to learn how to value yourself, your ability and your
contribution in the world because you are unique.
You have to
understand that you cannot value and respect others unless you first
value and respect yourself. We also have to learn the art of loving
yourself, increase your confidence and fell better about yourself. When
you look in the mirror look past the image you first see you are more
than that. We all have things about our appearance that we don’t like
but do you realise that other people looking at us will see something
different.
Self image is another significant part of how you
feel about yourself. Low self esteem means that you will have a poor
image of yourself and this will result in a loss of confidence. Your
social skills will also suffer and you will find it harder to socialise
because others will respond negatively to your lack of confidence. You
need to see and understand that there are lots of good reasons to feel
positive about yourself.
Remember That:
You must learn
and understand that you, and only you must believe in yourself. You
have to give yourself the credit you deserve for the succesful things
that you have done in the past, the succesful things you are doing in
the present and the succesful things you know you can and will do in the
future.
An important part of lifting and keeping your self
esteem is by making the commitment to learn something new. Attending
motivational seminars or read a book that will inspire you. There are
lots of books and tapes that can help move you forward with your life.
By making self development part and parcel of your life you will improve
and retain you self esteem and be confident about the present and the
future.
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